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Hi, I'm Corinne. After a lifetime of obesity being bullied for being the fattest kid in the class and losing and gaining weight like it was my job, I finally got my shit together and I lost 100 pounds each week. I'll teach you no bullshit weight loss advice you can use to overcome your battle with weight. I keep it simple. You'll learn how to quit eating and thinking like an asshole. You stop that and weight loss becomes easy. My goal is to help you lose weight the way you want to live your life. If you are ready to figure out weight loss, then let's go, but let's talk a little bit about regains. They just happen. I mean, I'm going to tell all of you. I've had regains. I've gained 10 pounds, I've gained 15. I had a purposeful regain once. Hardest regain I ever did. 

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You know what? My easiest regains are the ones where I just go on vacations. This is the first summer I didn't decide I'm going to gain 10 pounds where I just do things. Those are actually easier for me to correct because it's like, okay, I made small changes and gained 10 pounds, which I let go of little things that I was doing to gain, which means I just got to put little things back in to lose the tent. To me, that just makes sense to me. That's just the math of the problem. Y'all act like it's like I did little things to end up gaining weight, so now I got to do these extraordinary efforts to lose it. No, they're mirrors. Mirrors of each other. If you slowly got away from planning, you need to slowly get back into it. If you stopped listening for hunger, you'll start listening again. If you're not drinking your water routinely, get you Stanley Cup and get busy. 

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It's like this and this, this, and this. You're just pairing up things and I'll tell all of you, you will probably the reason why I say you're going to lose your weight for good. I think you all misconstrue what that really means. Losing your weight for good doesn't mean you never have a regain. Losing your weight for good means you are so equipped with the skills and the emotional stuff that we teach you, that when it happens, you can easily get back to where you were. My goal is not to just say like, okay, we get there. Now we got to hold forever because here's what usually happens with regains. A lot of times y'all join. This is just being honest. A lot of you wait around and you wait around and you wait around. Then you finally fucking join when life lines up at the right time. 

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We have usually an influx of people in the fall because their kids go back to school and stuff. It's like finally things have settled down. My kids are not home now I can focus on me. So they never learn how to lose weight when they have a lot of distractions. Everything has to be the focus on me in order to lose weight. Doesn't mean that we don't want to also be good at that, but it would be normal for the first summer when the focus isn't on you to notice you have a regain because you haven't experienced that yet. Some of you join when life is fine and then you experience a traumatic event. You didn't lose weight dealing with death. You didn't lose weight dealing with taking care of a parent who's declining in mental faculties or health faculties. You didn't join when your marriage was on the rocks, and so in those moments we can look at those regains and figure out good. I need to know when as the emotional situations rise, when I take this weight off, how do I learn from that? What was I ignoring during that time? What was I not giving myself during that time? Because I don't ever want to get put in that position again. So this time I'm going to lose and I'm going to make sure that I have really learned. When I was giving myself food, it was because I had an inability to give myself what, and I need to answer that. 

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So regains are very normal and they just happen. And then what keeps you stuck when you are not able to get back on track and stuff has nothing to do with not knowing what to do. A lot of you say, I just don't know what to do. I'm like, bullshit. If I put a gun to your fur baby's head and said, this little motherfucker's going in the ground, unless you tell me exactly what you need to do this week to lose weight, suddenly you'd be like, I need to do this. I need to do this. I need to do this. It is rarely a confusion problem. What we're usually doing is we're not getting back on track because of our shitty attitude about it and where our focus is. If you're focused on what happened, instead of what you're going to do today, you're going to have a lot harder time If you are focused on, if you're just all allowing yourself only to beat yourself up, then during the moments when you're beating yourself up, guess what you're not able to do? Give yourself clear instructions. 

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Calm yourself down. Those are the skills that are needed in order to lose weight. That's not just a skill for regains. That is a skill for all of it. Just think about it. That would be like saying, I haven't, well, Corinne, I went back to typing. I mean, I've been typing for six months. I really haven't written, I haven't used my hand in a while on writing. I just don't know what to do to start writing back. How would you even start that? I don't know what to do. It's like you would never say that, and yet, if you've already lost weight for some reason, you tell yourself, I just don't know what to do. It's like you do know what to do. Here's the questions you got to ask. I know what to do and my willing is the real question. I need to list what it is that I know I need to be doing and I need to go through them one by one and ask myself, am I willing to do it? 

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And if not, why? And then you have two choices in that moment. You can say like, yep, I'm not going to do it. You do not get to complain bitch or moan about your regain anymore, and you just tell your brain, look, you made a decision. Here are the things you're not willing to do to lose weight. So I'm just going to no more bitching. No more moaning that we did it. We need to just say, I'm unwilling to do these things right now. And you just need to be in the truth, not in confusion. 

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Because usually when you tell yourself the truth enough, eventually you're just like, fuck. Well, this seems like I keep telling myself I won't do it, but I also don't like that I've regained weight, so maybe I'm, I'm just going to have to be willing to do it. And then if you look at 'em and you ask yourself, here are the things I need to do, am I willing to do them? And you're kind of like, yes. Then you just need to do them. You need to plan to do them. That's it. It's not that confusing. So I had wrote down, am I willing is the question. And if you're not, you need to tell yourself I won't do that instead of I don't know what to do. 

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And then if the question is I am willing, then you need to make a plan and say like, okay, and I'm willing to get it done today, and I might have shitty thoughts. I might not want to in the moment, but a part of me is willing to do it and it probably won't be as bad as I think. And here's the other thing. None of you, when you regain weight, need to pick up where you left off. I think that is one of the biggest traps people fall into when it comes to regains. I need to pick up where I left off. I've got to go back to where I was at the height of when I was losing. No, here's what you really need to do. If you want it to work, you need to pick up where you are now because here's what I know, and let me just say to all of you, your brains are a fucking hot mess. 

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Do not literally, if this helps you, you need to tell yourself, Fred's fucking smart. She has helped thousands of women. She's lost weight. I see people every single day losing weight in this membership, which means stuff she tells us is probably more true than anything my brain's offering right now. So for all of you, I want you to think about this between me and you whose brain is likely not only telling the truth, but is based in more logic, has sees more of the bigger picture than you do and knows more about these things. If you agree that I probably know more about weight loss than you and that I can see things more logically, then you can just tell yourself in the moment when your brain is acting like, no, you just say like, I trust Corinne. If she says to just do this, I'm just going to do this. 

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It's probably not as bad as I'm thinking it's going to be. It's probably never going to be nearly as catastrophic, bad, as bad as I think it's going to be. So you can always tell yourself that. So when I say this, you need to pick up where you left off is one of the most detrimental sentences you could be having with a regain. You need to tell yourself, I need to pick up where I am now. Right now. What can I be doing and no more. My gut and my intuition will tell me if this is too much. So I'm going to start with where I'm at now because this is what I know a hundred percent is true. Your brain, especially when you've lost weight before, it has got all of those pathways laid in it. It knows what to do. The problem is, is you haven't been using those pathways, so they're not turned on right now. 

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You've done the hard work of creating new ways to eat. You've done the hard work of already doing the new things that we do in no bs. It's not like when you first came in, you had to learn everything. You had to teach your brain a lot of stuff because you just hadn't done that before. Well, you've got all that laid. When your brain, when you start re-engaging things, your brain also starts highlighting those pathways again. All it has to do is turn 'em back on. It does not have to build them from the ground up. It's like the difference between if you walk into a house that has no electrical wiring, it's going to be really hard to turn the lights on, right? Well, what you did when you first lost weight is you took a house that had no electrical wiring and you put the electrical wiring in. 

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So you did the hard work, you rewired the house. The problem with the regain is you left the house and you turned all the lights off and it may have been off for so long, or you didn't pay the bill to where we call it NES around here. National Electric Service NES has now cut off the electricity. It's like you don't need it. You hadn't even been paying your bills. But when you first start back, you got to look at where I am now. I got to pay my bill. First thing I got to do is go pay the bill because even if I start trying to turn on lights in here, nothing's coming on until I pay the bill. Then when I pay the bill and they turn things back on, I can go room by room and I can start turning the lights on and they're going to come on because you've already done the work. You have already put the electricity in. 

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And then the last thing, and I'm going to just reiterate this one, is learn from a regain. Do not let it be a source of pain unnecessarily. Do not let it take over your life. I always think it won't be long until I'm feeling better. The faster I get into action, the faster I start doing some of the things that I know I'm willing to do and that I can do. I will start feeling some momentum and once momentum kicks in, and once I start feeling better, my brain will relax on the regain. So I won't feel bad all the way until I lose all the weight. I'm only going to feel bad for a little bit until momentum kicks in, and then I'm going to feel bad and momentous. I'm also going to feel like some progress. So every step you get to feel better as long as you're taking them. 

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So for me, it really helps me to think, and this is really good for all of you that have a lot of weight to lose. This was one of the things that really helped me when I was staring down the barrel of over a hundred pounds, is to think about, I'm not going to feel better once I lose a hundred pounds. I'm going to feel better at a lot of moments along the way. Today is probably the worst I'm going to feel tomorrow when I do something. I'm going to wake up tomorrow feeling like I started, so I'm going to feel a minuscule amount better than I did than I do right now, and then the next day and then the next day, and in two weeks, I'm probably going to feel so much better than I feel right now. So breaking it down into this way of thinking, I'm just going to feel better in these milestones really helped me. 

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Otherwise, my brain would think it's going to be so long before I feel better. I can't feel good until I get back to that which is never, never, never the truth. So learn from your regains. They're very often just a sign that while we were regaining weight, we were ignoring something that we really needed in life. We were probably ignoring a physical need or we were ignoring an emotional need. You just kind of want to look back at that. For some of us, we were just ignoring our intuition. Our intuition was telling us, Hey, I really think you should make a plan today. No, I don't have time. 

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We were ignoring two things, the intuition to keep planning, and we were ignoring that. Our brain was saying things that are important to you, you don't have time for them anymore, and we want to always be looking at that. Okay, what periods of life am I okay with? Setting aside some of my needs, and can I do that more deliberately so that I don't let go of things that I might really need? You are owed to feel better than you do right now. You deserve to feel better than you do right now, but there's only one person in the world that can do that for you. There's no man. There's no woman, there's no teacher, there's no coach. There's no one, no child. There's no one in the world who can make you feel the way you want to feel. That is always going to be on you, always. Thank you so much for listening today. Make sure you head on over to no bs recourse.com and sign up for my free weight loss training on what you need to know to start losing your weight right now. You'll also find lots of notes and resources from our past podcasts help you lose your weight without all the bullshit diet at us. I'll see you next week.