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Hi, I'm Corinne. After a lifetime of obesity being bullied for being the fattest kid in the class and losing and gaining weight like it was my job, I finally got my shit together and I lost 100 pounds each week. I'll teach you no bullshit weight loss advice you can use to overcome your battle with weight. I keep it simple. You'll learn how to quit eating and thinking like an asshole. You stop that and weight loss becomes easy. My goal is to help you lose weight the way you want to live your life. If you are ready to figure out weight loss, then let's go. Hello everybody. Welcome back. So today we're going to do another podcast that is straight from the Instagram users. We recently polled everyone and asked, what do you want to hear about? And here was, I'm going to tell you right now, this topic, I comes up a lot inside my membership and we actually have lessons and we have calls and we have all kinds of things that you can try to defeat it inside the membership. 

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But I do want to talk about on the podcast, because a lot of you are hanging out in it and you desperately need help with you Damn nighttime eating. This is what people usually tell me, Corrine, I do good all day and then at night I just seem to lose control. And if I could just get my nighttime eating under control, I bet you I could lose weight. So I want to talk about why this phenomenon happens, why so many of us are good at being good all day long and then at night everything just comes off the rails. So the very first reason why some of us might be eating our faces off at night is because we are actually hungry. So sometimes that's the most common and simplest reason. If you're actually hungry, then we want to eat. One of the pillars of my entire weight loss program is we are going to eat when we're hungry. 

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We are not going to do past asshole diets that only gave us so many calories or only gave us so many hours a day that we could eat your body. It needs food, plain and simple. It does need food. And somehow as women, we've got it warped in our head that eating's a bad thing. And unless you're starving, when you're losing weight, somehow you're doing it wrong. If you're starving to lose weight, here's a hint. You're fucking doing it wrong. It should not be that way. Your body does better, keeps the metabolism going, saves your hard-earned muscle. All the positives come from actually eating. So if you are actually hungry at night, it could be because during the day you may be restricting more than you need. And so that means your body is going to send up a lot of hunger cues at night to try to get you to eat when things are quiet. 

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Because when things are quiet, guess what you can't do? You can't ignore it. You can't bypass it. Your body probably is during the day sending you signals. Please feed me. And you're like, oh no, I got to finish this project. Oh no, my kid needs me. Oh no, I am too busy. Or you're so worked up and anxious all day long about losing weight and you have more willpower in the earlier party of the days. So you are ignoring it. We get it all twisted up in our fucking head that in order to lose weight, we're supposed to be starving and it's just not true. So the first and easiest, simplest explanation for not time eating could be that you are actually hungry. And if that is the case, there's a few things you can try. Number one is you can just eat more food throughout the day in regular intervals. 

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Pay the fuck attention If you need to carry some snacks, get you a Stanley Cup and put a protein shake in it and take it to your meeting and no one will know the wiser that you're actually getting you some nutrients in rather than falling on the sword and being like, I'm just so busy, I can never eat. Try to prioritize making sure that you are getting food so that your body is not ravenous at night and you have nothing but a quiet house and a loud ass brain screaming, you ignored me all day. We need to eat. Bitch, I know you're going to do it again tomorrow. So now I'm going to send you to the pantry and I'm going to let you be a trash panda. So let's make sure that we pay attention. Alright? Is one of the reasons why I might be over eating at night because I'm actually hungry and am I setting myself up to be hungry at night? 

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Alright, reason number two, for a lot of us, nighttime is freedom time. This was me back when I was just starting to lose my weight. It became crystal clear to me early on that I was the second my husband would get home and take over the baby and take him upstairs to bathe him and put him to bed. I went immediately to the ice cream. When I say I went to the ice cream, I mean I was eating a half a gallon on the couch by myself. There's a few reasons why we do this. Freedom eating. The first one is no one's around it's night. It's dark. You finally feel like, fuck yeah, I'm alone. No one needs me. For some of us, when we are stressed out all day, give, give, taking care of everybody else, rushing around, we also the veil of the evening can feel like we're going to be getting away with something. 

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Finally, we get to have fun. Finally, we get to relax. It's when we are allowing ourselves to not be the good girl, buttoned up doing what everyone else expects us to do. We give ourselves permission with food to sit there at night and finally feel free for a moment to just feel like now we get to be like everybody else for a moment. That was my big thing. I was eating at night because I realized like, oh my gosh, I don't have anything going on during the day that doesn't involve a little human or making sure that the house was ready when my husband got home. And this is not like my husband was demanding all of it. I had these pressures put on me from society. I looked around and I would see my friends who had a kid, and it seemed like they just enjoyed every fucking minute of those kids. 

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And so all day long, I'm just trying to barely hang in there. And my mean, when he would come home and he would relieve me, all I wanted to do was eat and shut off every judgment I had about myself, every pressure I had, I just wanted to shut it all down. So for a lot of us when we're eating at night, it is the bat signal that something's amiss during the day. So nighttime is really not the problem here. It's our daytime that needs us to work on it. So we have to be thinking about what am I rebelling against? What am I running from? What is it that I feel like I need breaks from in my life? And then are there ways that I can get that? Do I need to ask for more help? Do I feel trapped in some areas and is there a legit way out and I'm just too afraid to voice my needs? 

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The next one for nighttime eaters is it's alone time. This is where, and it's a little bit like the last one because this one for me was also big. Logan was a really needy child. He needed constant attention. I didn't know he had autism yet. And so I really had to be vigilant with him because he would easily get set off and have massive tantrums. So I was always on edge all day long, meeting his needs, trying to anticipate his needs, getting ahead of his needs. And then I'll just be honest, I love my husband, but back in the day, I didn't feel real sexy. He still found me sexy. He still was in love with his wife and he wanted some of that boom boom. And I'm going to tell you, when you take care of a kid all day and then you got a man who's just like, yum, yum pork chop, what do you think? 

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You just feel wore the fuck out. And I say this because I'm so grateful that Chris, he has loved me at every size, every mood, every stage of my life, but he has always wanted to be with me. And there were just periods of my life where it was overwhelming and I was afraid to speak up about it, and so I was eating because of it. So if your entire day is just filled with taking care of others and you just don't have a moment to take care of yourself, the nighttime is going to feel like that only chance that you have to relax, to escape, to feel the tiredness of the day, to feel any of the emotions you've been shoving to the side to take care of others. And it's the only time you ever get to comfort yourself. And then that creates its own special storm. 

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One of the things we do a lot of inside the No BS program is teaching women how to comfort themselves in ways other than food, how to put in new coping mechanisms, how to speak up for yourself without being a bitch or feeling like you're guilty for saying things. We work a lot on this stuff because when you don't, you are eating your face off at night and then you feel terrible that you can't get your shit together, that you can't just be good like everybody else. So something that you can do is you can try to figure out, is there a way for me to get some time during the day during my waking hours where I can get a little comfort or a little peace or some alone time? You might also want to ask yourself, what am I avoiding during the day? 

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What kinds of needs of my own am I avoiding or thinking I shouldn't be having? So it's really just about figuring out what you need most during the day to care for yourself so that food isn't the only way you're doing it at night in these little stolen moments, in these little moments where you're hiding and getting it done. Now the next one is just pure habit. This is a big one. A lot of us, and this was also me honestly, I don't want you to feel ashamed. If you're sitting there thinking shit, Corin, I must be really broken. You don't want me in your membership because I resonate with all this stuff. No, I want you because the reason why I know all these things is because I have done all these things. For a lot of us. Eating at night also just becomes a habit. 

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Our brains are going to ask us to do it just like our brains ask us to take a shower or to wipe our ass after we take a poop. If you've been doing it, the habit might've formed and now you're just stuck in it. So if you have started caring for yourself, you really are sitting there thinking, I don't think I'm eating regularly now. I'm caring for myself. I'm doing the things I just want to eat at night now. And you don't really have a great reason why it's happening. It could just be because you're used to doing it. So you need to have a different response for when you are going to want to eat. This is not about distracting or whatever. You're going to want to remind yourself, I know I want to eat. I also know nothing's wrong right now. I also know I want to break this habit, so it's going to take me a few days to stop it. 

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Now, I just want to reiterate here though, that a lot of you try to stop your nighttime eating without resolving that other things we just talked about that is asking for hell's Gates to open. If you don't resolve the root causes behind it, then all you're really doing is saying, here it is at night. I've been hungry all day ignoring my needs, not taking care of myself, blah, blah, blah, and now I'm going to take away the only way I know how to deal with it. I'm going to take away the food. So I'm just left with the exhaustion, the burnout, the feeling like no one cares, whatever it is. So we don't want to put ourselves in a position to try to take away the food before we resolved what was causing it. But if it's literally just a habit, it will feel uncomfortable, but it will not feel unbearable. 

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But for a lot of you, when you're not really getting to the root cause of what's going on behind your eating, when you take the food away, it feels unbearable. People say, I just can't stand it. It feels like the urges are never going to stop. That's why it's important for you to stop trying to lose weight with traditional diets and you do something more like my program where we are helping you get to those root causes and helping you figure out ways to meet your needs in new ways, helping you get the courage to have conversations you might need to have helping you see, you don't need to feel guilty for some of this shit. Other day I was coaching a woman who literally she wanted to ask her. She knew she needed help at night. She was working a full-time job. She had all these things going on and she needed help from her husband. 

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And I said, well, tell me what he said when you asked for help. And she said, well, I haven't asked him. And I said, so you've just been eating every night? I was like, well, what do you think would happen if you asked him? She's like, oh, I know he would help. He's always saying he wants to, I just need to tell him what to do. I just feel really bad guilty that I'm having to ask him to do things that I know I should be doing. And I was like, now, tell me why you should be doing this. And it literally came down to, well, that's what wives do. And I said, really, in this day and age, wives are supposed to go to work, slay all day, come home, take care of all the kids, and act like it's still the fifties with leave it to Beaver. 

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Last I checked, June Cleaver didn't have a job. That's why she could do shit at night. So a lot of times we just need someone to be talking to us to point out. Sometimes when our minds are creating such a loaded story full of bullshit and we're like, oh, I actually have someone in my life who will help me. There's no reason to feel guilty. In fact, the other person says to me that they would be happy and grateful to help me. I just need to get over my shit and pull the trigger. So that's why a lot of times we need coaching. Now, one of the other big reasons is guilt. Sometimes what happens is we are eating a lot of food at night. We're going to bed, and then we wake up the next day feeling terrible that we screwed up again, and then we start the cycle over of like, oh my God, you fucked up. 

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Today, we're going to skip breakfast, we're going to exercise night. We start putting all this pressure on ourselves. We start kind of punishing ourselves like, I'm going to do punitive dieting behaviors today to make up for yesterday. So not only are we feeling guilty, but now we're feeling punished. You dog pile that all day long. Then at night, what ends up happening is your brain says, you know what? Let's escape from this. We got to get out of here. I can't take all this pressure. You're punishing me. You're feeling guilty. And so then we turn back to food again and we start the cycle all over again. This is where we are going to have to work on allowing ourselves to feel compassionate for where we're at to no longer beat ourselves up simply because we don't know how to break the nighttime eating habit, or we don't understand what we're doing just yet. 

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This is where we also need help with someone helping us, not punishing ourselves the next day. You are not doing anything bad because you are binging or overeating at night. You are simply either eating out of habit, actually hungry because you're ignoring your needs. You don't currently have a way to deal with life's stresses. Sometimes you may feel guilty that you haven't lost weight yet. And for some of us, I will tell you this is another way my guilt would manifest. Often at night, I would be so tired and so exhausted and I would want to just be like, you know what? I don't even want to clean the kitchen. I just kind of want to lay down. And I would feel so guilty for just taking care of myself that I would eat to let the guilt go so that I could feel cared for. 

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That is some of the reasons why so many of us are stuck eating at night. It is not because we're weak. It's not because something's wrong with us. It's not because we're broken, and it's definitely not because we're bad people. We just have unmet needs and we need someone to show us how to meet them so we can have a better life, and that we don't have to depend on food anymore to have that better life. Any of this resonates with you. I'm telling you, stop hanging out in the podcast and join the program. There's only so much weight all of you can lose in the podcast. And once you join our program, you start getting bigger, better, and faster results because we're fixing the real things, slowing you down in weight loss. You get the support you need, you get access to coaches, you get access to many lessons that go even further than what I can teach you in the podcast. Alright? Work on your nighttime eating. Join us if you need us, and I'll see you next week. Are you ready to lose weight? The no BS way? If so, good news, we are open, which means you can join us at any time for just $59 a month. If you're ready to work with me to lose weight, the no BS way, come on over to join no bs.com. Check out everything that we offer. We would love to help you lose your weight for the last damn time.