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Hi, I'm Corinne. After a lifetime of obesity being bullied for being the fattest kid in the class and losing and gaining weight like it was my job, I finally got my shit together and I lost 100 pounds each week. I'll teach you no bullshit weight loss advice you can use to overcome your battle with weight. I keep it simple. You'll learn how to quit eating and thinking like an asshole. You stop that and weight loss becomes easy. My goal is to help you lose weight the way you want to live your life. If you are ready to figure out weight loss, then let's go. Hello everybody. Welcome back. So today we want to talk about a question that I get all the time, and in fact, we asked on my Instagram account the other day for what is it that y'all are wanting to hear me talk about? 

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And here was a question that came up a lot, which is, how much weight can I lose in one month? Now people are always asking this and I'm always trying to figure out why, and I think it's because so many of us who have been on the diet train what feels like all of our lives. If you're anything like me, I was the only fan when I came out the womb when it didn't matter. In fact, most of us want a chubby baby. So the one time in my life that I could have had the rolls, the dimples and all the things, and everybody would've been like, Ooh, that's so cute. I came out thin. Then by the age of nine I was gaining weight and was significantly overweight all the way through my thirties. So when I think about that and all the diets I was on, I was always curious about, Ooh, before I start a diet, how much weight can I lose in a month? 

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And when I really started thinking about this and why we're fascinated with that question, it's really because when we are trying to lose weight or we are about to start our next program, the one thing we want so much is reassurance. We just want to know it's going to work. I mean, I want you to think about it and it's so normal. We are desperate to believe that this time can be different. We think that if we just know it's going to work somehow, that's magically going to change everything. And I'm just going to tell you it doesn't. When I started losing my weight in my thirties, I had a hundred pounds to lose. I'd spent my entire life on and off diets. I was 250 and there was not one shred inside of me that was like hot damn, this is the time. I bet you I'm going to lose weight. 

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No, I did not think I could. I was in all the doubt, all the fear, but I also knew I couldn't keep going. I was, and I was very willing to try again, risk failing, be scared as fuck all the things and just see what was going to happen. So when I pull apart this question about how much weight can you lose in a month, I really do think it's because we are a hundred percent desperate to feel like we can do it. And so before I even get into all of what I want to talk about today, I just want to tell you, I don't think most people are ever going to get to that piece. You might find maybe you're listening to me and you're just like, this sounds like the way. This sounds like something I can do. I keep listening to Corinne every week in the podcast. 

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I'm kind of dicking around, but I really do think this might work. You probably still have lots of hesitations and stuff. That's why you just keep listening to the podcast and not joining my damn membership. But I just want to tell you, it is so normal to want that, but I just honestly don't think that we should be delaying figuring out how to lose our weight for the day that we're going to have the perfect life, the perfect belief, and a hundred percent certainty. Otherwise we're just never going to get started. We're always going to be on the sidelines. You'll always be just listening to the podcast. You'll be spending all of your time reading books, trying to do anything and everything you can to get that feeling like this is the time. All I need for you to do is to just know this. 

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It might not be your time, but isn't it better to try and figure that out than it is to sit on the sidelines guaranteeing this won't be the time? So I know we're looking for reassurance. I know we're looking for belief and this is what I also know. If I said, oh, it's a hundred percent, you'll for sure lose your weight. I have looked in the magic ball and it is telling me that you do it. I would almost bet you your brain will immediately say like, oh, I don't know. I bet your ball's broken. I don't know. Did your boss see my pass? Well, I'm going to be the one who fails. So I just want to tell you, number one, it's bullshit for you to sit there and think that the day is coming that life's going to be perfect and you going to be so giddy up and so motivated that you are going to lose all your weight. 

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Never have to look back. You're just probably one day going to get a complete asph full and decide at some point, I'm going to try again. Alright, so with that out of the way, let's talk about how much weight you can lose in a month. One of the things that I want to tell you is that most of my clients when they first join, they're going to lose an average somewhere. This is a wide range between four and 10 pounds their first month. Now you're probably sitting there going like, what the fuck? That ain't no average. Do you even know the math? Let me tell you why I do not believe in keeping track of success rates, percentages and all this other bullshit that we all think we need. Number one, I bet you every diet you've ever done in the past, if you've done Weight Watchers or Noom or any book, you've read some book, I bet you they gave you freaking success rates that seem damn impressive. 

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The averages, what somebody else can do does not help you figure out what you need to do to make things work. So for example, let's say I'm like, girl, you need to come to Nashville. Me and Debbie Levy, who is one of my members who's lost over a hundred pounds, Ida who she's lost over a hundred pounds, me and my over a hundred pounds posse, I'm going to bring all of them in and we are going to bring you to my sports bar and Nolansville, Tennessee, and we're going to sit down and we're going to talk. If you sat there, guess what? The average weight loss in no BS amongst those people is going to be over a hundred pounds. That average ain't going to help you, especially if you only need to lose 50. So I just want you to think about it's comparing yourself to averages and looking at success rates and stuff of programs. 

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I just think it's a terrible way to figure out your personal success plan. It takes the eye off the prize of you, and I know that you think that that would give you some reassurances, but I'm just going to tell you what I know when people join my membership, when people are working with me, the success rate is dependent upon the person it is depending on are you going to quit or not? When things get hard, are you going to try to keep going or are you going to have pity party? Are you going to do some of the shit I say? Are you going to sit there and just listen to shit and do none of it because you're too afraid to try? It ain't magic When it comes to weight loss, those who try things and then form an opinion about how hard it is tend to do better than those who sit back and think it's going to be hard and don't do jack shit. 

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This is simple common fucking sense, y'all simple. And yet we sit there and we act like it's all so hard. So we are going to talk about how much weight you can lose in a month when you're first starting. It might be easier for you to lose more weight than it will be later on. And this is not because weight loss gets harder. It is because in the beginning, if you are like me, I had a hundred pounds to lose and guess what my habits were for shit, I didn't exercise at all. I mean, if I got off the couch to turn on the TV or now y'all got to remember, this is 15 years ago I had a remote, but good lord, you still had a big button on the front of the TV that you could turn on and sometimes I graced my ass across the floor to do so I might have to run upstairs to get my baby who was sleeping. 

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That's like the most activity I was doing. So when I first started, anything positive that I did moved the needle. So one of the things that I want you to think about is if you're trying to figure out, well, I wonder how much weight I could lose this month, you really have to first consider where you're starting. If you have tons and tons of habits that you can change, if you have been sedentary, if you're eating like complete shit, binging your face off, doing all the things I'm going to tell you right now, you probably can lose a little bit more weight in the beginning and then as time goes on and you're cleaning up those habits and stuff, your weight loss will stabilize to what we just call a more predictable rate. So in the beginning it could go faster, but let me say this, when you are first starting out and if you are like me and you have loads and loads of busted habits, you have lots of things you can change, I suggest you don't. 

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I suggest you keep things really small in the beginning because in the beginning it helps you make progress faster. So progress isn't in my mind what happens on the scale. I want you making fast progress in being able to make a positive change in your life and keep it. I think that's one of the most important things about weight loss. We cannot and should not be overwhelming ourselves. In the very beginning when I used to try to lose weight, I would always be so down on myself and think, oh my God, you're such a loser. You should be exercising, you should be eating better. You shouldn't be eating this. I did a big, big whiny ass eor pity party when I started this last time. I really saw that every time I tried to change lots and lots of things, it screwed up my long-term ability to keep going. 

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I wasn't changing as a person, I was just forcing myself to do a lot of stuff that I thought I should, but never, ever thought about, do I want to live this life? Is this what I'm willing to do for the rest of my life? And when I lost weight this time, I just decided, nope, here's what we're going to do. I want to lose weight and figure this out and I don't want to have to do this shit again. So if I don't want to have to lose weight again, I better damn lose weight in a way that I know I could keep doing long after the weight loss phase was over. So I kept things really small in the beginning so that I could make habit progress. Habit progress is where you pick things to do to lose weight. That can become an automatic habit for you. 

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That is now just a lifestyle way of living instead of just doing things to get the scale moving, and this is the real magic. When you do lifestyle and habit progress and you're really focused on that, that is what gets the scale moving the habits and the things you're doing and the way that you're making them a part of your new life. That's where you see the most progress. That's how you avoid stalls and plateaus. That's how you're able to keep going for the long haul and to be able to keep doing it once the weight is gone. So when you're first starting, you probably can lose a good five to 10 pounds the first month, especially if you're starting out where you're someone who's doing like me, I was doing a lot of overeating, very little moving and no taking care of myself. So the moment that I started drinking more water than orange juice and sweet tea weight would come off when I was taking 15 to 20 minute walks each day instead of laying on my ass all day long, more weight was coming off. 

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When I decided to cut my portions a little bit, I didn't change any of the food I was eating, I just changed how much I was eating of them. Weight was coming off, but establishing those habits, I was like, you know what? I think I can walk 15 to 20 minutes a day. Even if I had to do it in my house in the winter. I'm pretty sure I can become someone who drinks more water than they drink sweet tea and orange juice. I think that I don't need to eat as big a portions as I've been eating. I want to be able to eat these things, so what I'm going to do is I'm just going to eat a little less of those. That progress. Being really focused on that, making those small changes that didn't overwhelm me is what helped me get into the habit of weight loss. 

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Now, the other factor that comes into play when it comes to how much weight can you lose in a month is you got to think about much weight you have to lose. The more weight you have to lose. You are going to be able to lose what we call bigger numbers in the beginning and then it drifts down to what I call sustainable numbers. Most of us, we make this big ass mistake where we think, well, so-and-so can lose two pounds a week. Why can't I? If you weigh one 50 and somebody else weighs two 50, do not sit there and be like, woe is me old two 50 over there. She can lose two to four pounds a week in the very beginning and I'm only losing a pound. When you compare percentages, you're both losing about the same percentage of overall weight. If you want to lose that much weight that fast, then gain you a hundred more pounds and then you can lose it. 

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But don't sit there and whine to me, if you weigh 150 or 170 that you ain't losing as fast as someone who weighs two 50, y'all are not the same. You want to make sure that you are just focused on what is more sustainable. For me at my size, it doesn't matter what somebody else weighs or what somebody else is losing, stop focusing on that shit. All it does is make you feel bad, make you feel defeated, and when your brain wants to do it, you got to say like, no. All we're going to do is we're going to be thinking about what is best for me? What can I do today to make a difference in my weight loss? You have to cut that shit off. I know a lot of you're like, but I can't help it, but I do compare. P, alright, maybe your brain does like to do it, but that don't mean you have to keep doing it. 

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They'd be like your kid coming up to you, throwing a big ass titty, baby fucking tantrum, and you've been like, well, I guess there's nothing I can do. That kid just keeps coming in here throwing a big ass tantrum, smearing shit on the walls from their diaper. You would never say that you wouldn't do things to stop that behavior. If your brain is acting like a toddler throwing a fit and smearing shit all over your internal walls, you have to go in there like a parent and say, Hey, we ain't doing this today. I'm going to focus on what I can be doing for me. I refuse to focus on what Donna's doing over there. Alright, so how much weight you can lose in a month just depends on how much weight you've got to lose. So this is another reason why it's kind of a dumbass question to be trying to be figure. 

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It's like why are we even asked that question? That is the big thing. I'm just like, the real question we need to be asking is what the hell is it going to take for me to succeed? Rather than wondering and figuring out, well, I wonder how much weight I can lose this month. It's like, who gives a shit? Let's be asking a great question. What am I going to do to succeed today? What am I going to do to succeed in this meal? What am I going to do to succeed tomorrow? Be asking that. That is such a better question. And then when you're thinking about what you're going to do to succeed, here's the things you need to be thinking about. You've got to, when you lose weight, decide what you can do and what feels good to you. Now, so many of us, I kind of talked about this earlier, we need to meet ourselves where we're at. 

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The people that lose weight in my program are always the ones who are sitting there every single day thinking about what can I do today that will make a difference? And I want to tell you, some days we got more in the tank than others, and that's not a bad thing. We just want to be in the habit of asking every single day, what can I do today to win? Because if you're having a shitty day, let's say that you're in the sandwich generation. You got kids and grandkids take care of, plus your parents are elderly, they got the dementia. I was just working with a woman inside of our membership on every Sunday our members all get calls with me and we do big group coaching sessions and this one person that she's been with me for a long time, she's lost a lot of weight. 

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She was like, I'm in the sandwich generation and I'm going through a tough time right now. I still got 10 to 15 pounds I want to lose, but I'm eating and I'm not losing the weight because every day she is thinking about what she can't do. That's what we came down to. She was saying, well, I can't do this because I got to take care of my mom and I hate doing it and I feel bad about doing it. And I was like, well, first of all, I, who is going to love taking care and have a good time taking care of their parents when they have dementia? No one. The very first thing we had to do is really meet her. Where she was at was like, I think you're just in a tough season and I think you need to admit that to yourself. 

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This is my hard season. So if I want to lose weight during my hard season, I got to have a plan that works with my hard season. I can't keep sitting there thinking I'm going to diet and lose weight like I did when everything was rocking and rolling. I didn't have grandkids to take care of and my parents were taking care of themselves during that season. You got more energy and effort. You can do more in those times. You can do more. That feels good then for all of you, we're going to go through some tough times. Every one of us, including me, and we have to admit, what can I do while I'm taking care of my mom? I was working with my person and I said, how about you can cut yourself some slack? You don't need to feel bad or guilty that you don't enjoy it, that you don't want to be there. 

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No one wants to be there. Many of us will choose to be there. Just like my client, she's a warrior. She loves her mother. She's the kind of person who will do this, but that doesn't mean it's fine and it doesn't mean she should look forward to it. It doesn't mean that she shouldn't sometimes be resentful that she can't do the things she wants to do right now, but she can always tell herself, I know it's hard and you're choosing the hard stuff, so let's figure out what you can do to not eat over this, to love yourself through it, to figure out a way to lose some weight while also going through a tough season. So I want all of you to be thinking about this. We have to always be thinking about in weight loss. It is not about how much can you lose in a month. 

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It's all about where am I starting? What season of life am I even in right now? How much weight do I even have to lose? Am I comparing to apples to oranges? There's so many factors that go into it. It's bigger than just how much weight can I lose this month? I want you to join my program because you are owed and you deserve a program that's not just trying to get weight off you. You need a program that's helping you build a life while you lose weight. That sets you up to be able to keep that weight off long after it's gone. To have these kinds of conversations where you're looking at what is it going to take for me in this season of life? How can I not overwhelm myself? What are the things that I could do rather than being in a rush, rather than just losing weight at all costs, without even considering the kind of life I want to leave or the person I want to be? 

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When I lost weight, I lost over a hundred pounds and it took me 18 months to do it. I have never once wished it had gone faster from the time I lost the weight all the way to now, years and years later. I always think, thank God I got started. I'm so glad I did it. I'm very grateful to the version of me that decided to lose basically on average five and a half pounds per month because she was changing her life. She was willing to have some months for it to go faster and some months for it to go slower and never quit. She was making steady changes and she changed three core things, and this is probably what I'm most proud of when it comes to losing over a hundred pounds. I changed how I talk to myself. I just think that is the key to all weight loss. 

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If you are going to lose weight, the worst thing you can ever do is to lose your weight and still be a people pleaser. Be afraid of what other people think of you to be on edge all the time in your life. A lot of people can lose weight and do that, and then when they get to the end, they realize, I'm so glad I weigh X amount of pounds, but I'm still afraid of everything I put in my mouth. I'm still afraid of what other people think of me. I'm worried to death. They're all sitting around waiting for me to fuck this up. No one loses weight hoping that they keep being their anxious, overwhelmed, burned out, stressed out self. I want you to think about it. When you're losing weight, you have this imaginary, we have this belief that when we get there, it's like it's roses and daisies and there's rainbows everywhere and everyone loves me and I just never have problems anymore. You're going to still have problems when you lose weight. You're just going to be in a smaller body. Wouldn't it be great to know how to deal with your problems in a way that's new and without food? 

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The other thing I'm grateful for to myself is one of the ways I lost weight was by learning how to actually take care of myself. So many of my past diets, they were anything but they were usually self-deprecating. It was doing shit, cutting out foods, starving myself, not taking good over exercising was another one. I did so many asshole things all in the name of losing weight, and I did not do that this time. I, I can't do that again. I have got to learn how to like myself. I have got to be able to speak better to myself. I refuse to lose weight, beating myself up all the way down the scale I had in attempts past, but I also was like, I've got to learn how to take care of myself. I've got to learn how to eat better for me, not because I have to. I've got to learn how to ask for help instead of sitting around thinking, I've got to do it all. It's all on me. And then the last thing that really changed for me that I'm so grateful for is I got to the root cause of why I was eating. 

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I was no longer afraid to try to figure out, why do you want to eat tonight? What's going on? Why do you feel like this weekend you need to just eat all the things? What's really going on here? When I really started tackling all the reasons why I was overeating and then I fixed those things, my life got better and felt better, and then it just weight was just coming off. I didn't even feel like I was really trying anymore. I just felt like I was starting to be the person I was always meant to be. And that's what I want for all of you. I would love whether you join my program or you just listened to the podcast, that you can sit back one day and say, when I lost weight, I actually became more the person that I truly wanted to be and knew I could be. And I'm so glad I did that for myself. All right everybody, y'all have a great week and I'll see you next time. Are you ready to lose weight? The no BS way? If so, good news, we are open, which means you can join us at any time for just $59 a month. If you're ready to work with me to lose weight, the no BS way, come on over to join nobs.com. Check out everything that we offer. We would love to help you lose your weight for the last damn time.