Speaker 1 (00:01):

Hi, I’m Corinne. After a lifetime of obesity being bullied for being the fattest kid in the class and losing and gaining weight like it was my job, I finally got my shit together and I lost 100 pounds each week. I’ll teach you no bullshit weight loss advice you can use to overcome your battle with weight. I keep it simple. You’ll learn how to quit eating and thinking like an asshole. You stop that and weight loss becomes easy. My goal is to help you lose weight the way you want to live your life. If you are ready to figure out weight loss, then let’s go.

Speaker 2 (00:38):

Welcome back everybody. Today I’ve got another Nobis success story, and this is my friend Debbie Levy. She’s lost a hundred pounds with Nobis and we have her in what’s called the Century Club. So I have hundreds of members who are now officially a part of our century club, which means they’ve lost at least a hundred pounds with me. And so I want to share with you Debbie’s story so that you can relate. She is such a good example of someone who did not believe that she could lose weight and she proved herself wrong. And what’s great about her story is you get to hear me coach her some because at one point she had a little shitty bit mindset and I helped her kind of overcome that. So it’s a good example of what it’s like to be inside of no bs, where we don’t just work on making sure that you can lose your weight.

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We make sure that we change your whole attitude so that each day you’re waking up feeling better about yourself, prouder about yourself. You know how to stand up for you, you know how to take care of you. It’s not enough for me to help you lose weight if I’m not going to change your life. I don’t even want to bother with it. So enjoy hearing Debbie’s story as she is one of our members who I just got to tell you, she’s inside all the time sharing her story, helping our members lose their weight. She is an example of one of those women who really gives back to her community. So enjoy the story and I will see you in next week’s podcast.

Speaker 3 (02:16):

All right. Tell everybody how much weight you’ve lost.

Speaker 4 (02:19):

I am Debbie and I have lost a hundred pounds with no bs

Speaker 3 (02:23):

She’s one of our proud Century Club members. If you don’t know and no bs anytime we have different levels. You can get into Queen Club, which is like 25 pounds and stuff, but Century Club, I started that one specifically, I lost a hundred pounds. And we mail people a plaque when they lose pounds

Speaker 4 (02:42):

And a card. I have my card right over there and

Speaker 3 (02:44):

A card. We mail them all the things we love treating our members like family. All right, so tell everybody what it was like for you before no bs. What was your life?

Speaker 4 (02:57):

So I ate all the food all the time, and I drank. I had an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. I was a blackout drinker more days of the week than I didn’t drink, and I just didn’t care. I had gotten to the point where I found my life, it was easier to gain weight than entertain trying again because feeling’s not fun. And it’s just every time I tried, I would gain more weight. So I didn’t have a lot of belief or confidence in myself at all.

Speaker 3 (03:31):

And do you think, I know I can ask you this, but don’t you think that’s pretty common?

Speaker 4 (03:36):

I do think it’s pretty common. I think that our raise to failing is it just leaves you empty and it makes you not want to go after success. At least that was what it was because it’s sucks to fail. So why try?

Speaker 3 (03:54):

Well, this is the thing that I think is interesting is the way we’re taught. What we’re taught about failure is what makes it suck to fail. And once you realize, you tell me. I mean, tell everybody that you weren’t perfect on the way down the scale.

Speaker 4 (04:13):

Oh my gosh. I was sharing with somebody about my journey, and the one thing that I will always say is perfection is not required. I am 54 years old. I have met a ton of people because I am in sales. I still have not met a perfect person, and I certainly am not one. And I mean Sunday, and yesterday I was off plan. But you know what that meant? I was off plan. That’s it. And I just move on to my next choice.

Speaker 3 (04:45):

So let’s talk about failure. Now you know how to fail. It doesn’t suck to fail anymore. It’s like failure. I want y’all to think all of you to think about this. Imagine if in your life that when you screw up, don’t do something right. And I mean you don’t even have to just plug this into weight loss. This is one thing we do a lot inside of no Bs, is we try to take our lessons and apply them in all kinds of areas of our life. Could you imagine if you weren’t taught that it was bad or that you would get grounded, punished, things taken away from you if you weren’t getting good grades, if you weren’t doing it right? We’re just really brought up that way. But when you learn that failure is a part of being an adult, this is what actually happens in life. Things work and they don’t, then failure doesn’t suck. Failure only sucks when this happens. I didn’t do this right, therefore I’m broken. I’m the screw up. I’ll never have what I want. This means people won’t like me. Any of those things, that’s what makes failure suck. It’s not the actual fail itself.

Speaker 4 (06:00):

And it’s so interesting how it’s almost like failing becomes your friend. That’s what I have learned because it’s what moves me forward is it gives me an opportunity to learn. So being off plan the last two days wasn’t a failure. It was an opportunity to find out why I chose to go to the movie theater to buy a giant popcorn just for my Easter dinner. I mean, it gives,

Speaker 3 (06:24):

Well, why you? What’d you come up with it? Don’t make me coach you. Listen, I can tell myself,

Speaker 4 (06:31):

Yeah, I haven’t coached yet with you five and a half years. So you know what? I just was bored and I was missing my family at Easter, and I thought popcorn would solve that. And when it was gone, I was still missing my family at Easter. But I

Speaker 3 (06:47):

That’s such, it’s so funny you said that. I was listening to something this morning as I was preparing for this, and that’s an important lesson for all of you to hear is that she’s been taught by us to figure out what was really going on for her. And even after all this success and everything that she’s done, she ran up on a feeling that was really intense and she ate and she was smart enough to say like, what’s going on here? I just miss my family. One of the things that we try to help everybody do inside of no BS is like when we miss someone, when we are sad, when we’re lonely, it’s like maybe nothing wrong is going on. Maybe I’m supposed to be missing my family. Maybe I’m supposed to be sitting in a movie theater missing them in that moment when we can turn those things on, then we can just cry it out a little bit. Then’s why we got tears. We’re supposed to use them.

Speaker 4 (07:50):

Yes,

Speaker 3 (07:50):

And then we can just watch the movie. But this is the other thing she would never know that Debbie’s next level work is to learn. How often is your family gone?

Speaker 4 (08:04):

Well, my parents have passed away and Easter was a big holiday for my immediate family. So it’s something I’m not going to be able to reconnect with them. So I need to learn how to fill that

Speaker 3 (08:18):

Space. That’s what I was going to tell you is that just on a side note, what I would love for you, because you’re already a journaler, I would love for you to do this exercise. I want you to think about yesterday, and I want you to write kind of a letter to yourself of if I could do yesterday differently knowing that I went to the movies and if I didn’t order popcorn, what would I have done for the version of me that was really sad and missing them? What needed to be said? What needed to happen? I love doing the what would I have done differently yesterday? Exercise a lot for things, knowing that the situation was going to be exactly the same because it’ll prepare you for the next one because the one thing that we know, Debbie, you’re going to have holidays until you die,

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And you’re going to have plenty of opportunities to miss them, but also plenty of opportunities to care for yourself. And I’ll just say this last thing. I know this is off topic, but one of the things that helps me when I miss my granny, especially my pawpaw, is when I miss them and I really honor missing them, I feel like they’re present again, when I eat and try to ignore it, it’s like I always picture myself saying like, I’m pushing you away. I’m pushing you away. When I actually cry for them and miss them, it makes me really believe like they’re still with me and I don’t ever want them to leave. And if them being with me requires tears, I can even talk. I mean, my grand’s been dead over 20 years, but they raised me. I’ll cry. I’ll probably go on my deathbed crying from my grandparents.

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Probably excited to see ’em at that point. But that’s what the thing is that when we talk about no BS and what’s important, this is the kind of conversations all of you need to be having around food. Here’s the conversations that need to die. How many calories are in that? How many fat brands is that carby? I don’t know. Should I eat during this window or not? That’s not the conversations that women ever need to have ever again about losing weight. We have conversations like Debbie and I Have you lose a hundred pounds? Yes. What were we going to say, Debbie?

Speaker 4 (10:46):

Well, it’s funny because as I was sitting here listening to you talk to everybody, I’m sitting here going, I don’t want my a hundred pounds back. Let me make that clear. But I would not giving that back, I

Speaker 3 (10:59):

Feel the same.

Speaker 4 (11:01):

I would join all over again because I have learned that the freedom, just talking to you about missing my parents and knowing I’m not going to ever have that back, but sometime or I forgot that I could start journaling to them. So next year I’m prepared. We’re always a work in progress and I think when we stop learning is when we are not showing up for ourselves anymore. And it has been five and a half years since I’ve counted a calorie. Do you know how freeing that is? I have no idea how many calories were in that popcorn. I don’t care. I ate it and I did. I listened for hunger while I was eating it. And I think that for me was a win. I knew I was off plan. I knew I was dealing with some emotions, but I was still aware enough not to overeat,

Speaker 3 (12:00):

To give yourself the gift of like, you know what? You didn’t go into fuck it land. You were just like, here we are. We already know where we’re at. So one of my favorite sayings, I don’t even remember who said this originally, but I use it all the time. It was one of us inside of no bs. It’s like, why fuck up the day when you can save it? And that is exactly what you did yesterday. It’s like you caught yourself. And the best I’m ever going to teach anybody when it comes to weight loss is I’m not going to teach. No one is ever going to join no bs, learn everything and be like, and now I’m perfect. I’m so fixed. You’re going to join, you’re going to lose weight, and you’re always going to have triggered moments where an emotion is big or you want, your brain will always offer food back and that’s okay. Can you catch yourself? Can you have compassion? She had compassion. She’s like, oh, look at me. I’m over here eating popcorn. This wasn’t on plan. So what now can I do? That’s the next best decision. I just love it.

Speaker 4 (13:09):

So important is the next best decision. And you talked about the negative and what you said is so true. The quiet. I mean, we are so used to that negative self-talk, but every little bit that you let it go and just replace it with, you don’t have to be hip, hip, hooray, I’m the best thing since sliced bread. But if you’re willing to believe just a little bit that you are okay and you are worth making a mistake and still showing up, that is where I think the gold is, is that after not showing up up the way you want to still show up,

Speaker 3 (13:50):

Well do this before we leave, is if somebody right now is sitting there and they’re on the fence about joining no BS because it sounds like you got your shit together.

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Yes. Also, if you join no bs. One of the things that I love about Debbie is she is one of our members who I just think gives back beautifully. She writes some of the most inspiring posts inside of our private Facebook group. She’s very vulnerable. She shares so much of her personal journey, even though she’s lost all of her way, she don’t owe us shit anymore. She has done her crap, but she still shows up for everyone else on top of herself. So if somebody was sitting on the fence right now about joining, what would you tell them?

Speaker 4 (14:37):

I’m going to try not to cry, and if I do, it’s okay. Tears are okay. When I joined, I was so nervous that I would not have success again. And I almost let that fear hold me back. But believe in yourself just one more time because this person that I am on this zoom call with, and the entire no BS team give their heart and soul to us and the women in the membership, we share. We support each other. And if you want to lose your weight for the last time, I promise you, you are in the right place to do it. I always tell my husband, I want to marry you again. I love you so much. I’d marry you every day. And I would join no BS every single and every day. I make that choice. I make that choice. When I sit down to make my plan, I make that choice. When I go into no bs, it’s four things. Four things you need to do, and they’re simple and you just will be making the best decision of your life. I promise you that. And you can read my novels if you want.

Speaker 3 (15:51):

They are very long posts. But I love, I’ve always told her, you have a gift for writing and I really do mean this, Debbie, you should at some point take all the posts that you have and think about just even self-publishing a little book to help people because you have a real gift and talent for sharing your story, sharing your struggles, and inspiring people. And that comes from someone who writes every fucking day.

Speaker 4 (16:20):

Thank you. Say one more quick thing. Yeah.

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As a no BS woman and all of you on this challenge, one of the things that I know Corinne and all the coaches hear all the time is how much they have changed our lives. But I was thinking a couple weeks ago and I kind of changed that. Thank you. Thank you, Corinne, for letting me know that I was worth changing my life. And I think that that is the greatest gift that I have been given from no BS is knowing that I was worth that no matter all the shit that’s in my past, that doesn’t define me, what defines me as how I show up in this moment. So thank you for showing. I was worth it.

Speaker 3 (17:03):

Well, thank you. And will I see you soon?

Speaker 4 (17:06):

You will see me soon. Yes. You’ll alright.

Speaker 3 (17:08):

Just wanted to know. Alright. I’ll be giving you a big hug.

Speaker 4 (17:13):

Can’t wait. Take care. Bye. Thanks. Bye-Bye.

Speaker 2 (17:16):

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